June 2012
May 2012
“Humans punish themselves endlessly for not being what they believe they should be. They become very self-abusive, and they use other people to abuse themselves as well.”
—Don Miguel Ruiz (via anditslove)
We are blinded by the word beauty. In reality it has no definition. It has no form, no shape, no meaning. This word is not a noun - it is not an adjective. It is merely an opinion - and should be treated as such. Beautiful is a smile, the sounds you hear while falling asleep, the shaking in your fingers while touching a lover.
“What a terrible thing it is to wound someone you really care for and to do it so unconsciously.”
— Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood (via lovedyoubeautifully)
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We stopped freaking out about the “Oh my god, women want to wear pants!” thing a really long time ago. Women wandered into the traditionally masculine realms of self-expression and ambition and now it’s just normal.
Not so with masculinity. It is still as rigid and well defended as ever, despite a few David Bowies or Johnny Depps in the mix. Just look at last year’s total freaking meltdown about a J. Crew catalog that carried a photo of a woman painting her young son’s toenails. Just look at the way the more delicate boys of the world are bullied by their classmates and accused of being gay. Just look at the gender imbalance in the diagnosis of Gender Identity Disorder in children, with gender disordered pre-pubescent boys outnumbering girls at a rate of up to 30 to 1. When a girl is boyish, or even claims she’d rather be a boy, it’s cute. She’s a tomboy. When a boy is girlish, wanting to wear dresses or try on some makeup, it’s a mental disorder and needs an immediate medical intervention.
“But what matters isn’t “enthusiastic consent” but simply “real consent”—consent that’s given freely and sincerely. Consent that someone gives because they’re afraid they’ll be physically or emotionally attacked if they don’t isn’t real consent. Consent that’s given when someone is incapable of understanding what they’re agreeing to (because they’re drugged, or they’re a child, or they’re saying “yes” to a different thing than will actually be done to them) isn’t real consent. And obviously consent that’s withdrawn or never given at all isn’t real consent.”
—Cliff Pervocracy, “Real consent.” (via fuckyeahsexpositivity)
